Divorce is never easy! This stressful and unsettling event may bring out the lunatic out of many people involved. Anger, rage, depression, resentment, and sadness are just some of the negative emotions that usually accompany the divorce process. While some men might cope with divorce more easily, women are living a nightmare. Speaking bluntly, their emotional state is more challenging than ever before.
There is no doubt that divorce can trigger a wide range of uncomfortable and frightening feelings, emotions, and thoughts. Some may experience the fear at the daunting prospect of being alone again, while others are wondering how they will be able to pay all the bills and cope financially with this change. An overwhelming feeling of depression might affect others, while some men and women might deal with guilt and remorse, thinking how different the things would have been if they would have fight more.
Knowing how to cope emotionally during a divorce is paramount, especially if it is you who is involved in the divorce. The following tips should help you deal with your emotions better and defeat any negative mindset that is trying to take hold of your life.
Recognize that what you are feeling is normal
For starters, you should realize that it is very normal to feel angry, sad, confused and frustrated. Accept all of these feelings and try to digest the nature of your loss. Remind yourself that life goes on, regardless of your experiences. Moreover, life is more beautiful if you can live each day to its fullest, regardless of your feelings.
Choose to move forward: next, try to move on with your life. While grief and resentment might seem to immobilize at first, many people come to realize that in time they are more than able to move past these negative feelings. Some of the best methods that will enable you to move forward are prioritizing, talking about your feelings, putting things away and supporting yourself.
In addition to seeking guidance and support from your best friends and family members, you should try to cope emotionally doing some activities on your own. For instance, starting a healthy routine (a new sport, attending religious activities etc), keeping a private journal of your feelings, finding activities that distract you or self-soothing (a long bath, massages), are all activities that help you to better cope with your loss.
Talk about your problem
It has been proven that many people who are on the brink of divorce or are already passing through one find that their suffering is lessened when sharing their feelings with a closed group of friends. In addition to friends, support groups and counseling might be a perfect choice.
Lastly, you should try to put those important daily things in front of your situation. Life does not stop if you are emotionally down. You still have a job to attend, bills to pay, kids to feed, and the list goes on. Create a list with all the necessary things you need to do and start focusing your efforts on solving these things. You will soon discover that coping emotionally during a divorce is not such a daunting task.
A legal researcher by trade, Steffan serves as the Editor for all of eDivorce’s helpful guides and blog posts. He loves writing about the legal process in an effort to help reduce the complexities of the legal system. Learning from his own personal divorce, he enjoys sharing what has helped him, what didn’t, and how to move on with your life.